Who Is The Most Important Person In The World To You?

Things are really hotting up around here and the pre-launch of the 750 first edition signed copies of How To Be Rich and Happy is only a few days away. With John doing whatever he wants whenever he wants somewhere in Europe, this is my way of telling you I haven’t got time to write a brand new post this week!

So today I’m publishing a chapter from my first book, Don’t Ask Stupid Questions – There Are No Stupid Questions because it’s so relevant to the Rich and Happy formula. By the way, if you want a free copy of Don’t Ask Stupid Questions you can click the link and it will download automatically. Currently it sells on Amazon for $15 so free is way better than that!

Remember to call back on Monday 26th April and grab your limited edition version of How To Be Rich and Happy as we expect to sell out very quickly indeed and don’t want our current readers to be disappointed.

Who Is The Most Important Person In The World To You?

This is a question that I ask many of my coaching clients at some point or another. The answer varies as you would no doubt expect and it often leads to some deep thought.

The introspection that it invokes is the real reason why I ask it because I know that the answer I am looking for is seldom the one that I am going to receive.

I hope that you are taking the time now to think how you would answer that question if maybe a spouse, or a son or daughter or just a friend asked you. Don’t just gush out the most obvious answer or the answer that you think he or she would want to hear, as that is counter-productive.

Think about it now.

Hopefully you have given this careful consideration and come to the conclusion that YOU are the most important person in the world to you. It’s not your wife or husband or parents or even your kids, it is you. Without you everything else ceases to exist and without you, you are powerless to help your loved ones.

Too many people spend their lives putting other people first. Mothers that spend their all their time devoted to doing what others in their family want and negelct their health.

Business owners think they have to always put their businesses first and allocate whatever time is necessary to be ‘successful’ and everything else comes second. And workers cannot say no to a project for fear of upsetting somebody and end up spending even longer hours at work than necessary, frequently with precious little reward.

This is simply the wrong way round. Yes of course we want to look after our loved ones, yes we want to help people around us and to be seen as caring and loving, but without love for ourselves we cannot offer it to anybody else without draining ourselves.

If you have ever flown you will be familiar with the safety process that calls for putting on your own oxygen mask in case of an emergency before trying to help others. That’s because you can’t help anybody else properly if you can’t breath yourself! Soon you would become useless; in fact worse than that, you would become a burden on those around you.

Life is like that, by giving away all your resources you soon cease to be a help and become a liability.

I know a lot of people will think of this as nonsense and not be prepared to believe it and that is cool I can understand that, but let me tell you this Rich and Happy secret.

The most efficiently benevolent people on the planet put themselves first.

They know that if they don’t keep healthy, don’t eat properly and don’t look after their own mental, emotional and spiritual health then they cannot function efficiently. They know the power of saying no from time to time and do not then wallow in guilt or live in fear that others will think badly of them.

Another common aspect of Rich and Happy people is the way they talk internally to themselves. They don’t constantly reprimand, verbally abuse or beat themselves up. They accept when they have made a mistake, learn from it and move on.

We’re human, part of life is making mistakes and there is no value in kicking yourself over and over again into the bargain. Would you reprimand a baby when it repeatedly fails in its initial attempts to walk? Of course not, they keep persevering and learning from the process and that is how it should be.

Always be kind to yourself and never say anything internally that you wouldn’t say to a loved one or a close friend.

I am not suggesting you become self-centered and arrogant or that you neglect your family and never offer help to others, not at all.

What I am saying though, is give to yourself first what you want to give to others. Take some time out for you, even if it is only 20 minutes a day. Put your feet up, read a book, switch off from the world or even better, practice meditation.

This is not being selfish, it’s being kind to yourself and not only will you feel better, but others will thank you for it too.